You may have heard of “conscious uncoupling” or even simply parting due to “irreconcilable differences,” as ways of divorcing with little acrimony. However, is an amicable divorce really possible? While conflict is always a part of a divorce, it can be possible to split from your partner in an emotionally healthy way.
Communicate with your ex
While communication breakdowns may have led to your divorce, once the decision to divorce is made it is time to try to communicate in an effective manner as you negotiate a divorce settlement with your ex.
You can make sure you listen to their needs and ideas, and they can reciprocate. Keeping emotions at bay during these conversations is key. Save your anger for your therapist or a good friend willing to listen. Focus instead on how you both can move forward in an acceptable matter.
Cooperate with your ex
Negotiating a divorce settlement requires a certain amount of cooperation. You and your ex will have to recognize that neither of you is likely to get everything you want out of your divorce settlement. Knowing where your priorities lie with respect to property division, spousal support and child custody can help you focus on what is really important to you.
Mediation can be a good way to develop a divorce settlement with your ex. A neutral mediator can help you and your ex determine what is most important to each of you and how you both can make concessions that are acceptable to both. This way, you can cooperate with one another and reach a settlement that is agreeable to all.
Even if your goal for your divorce is an amicable parting of ways, you will still want to be represented by an attorney. Even a seemingly straightforward divorce can have legal complexities you cannot anticipate or know of. An attorney can advise you throughout the divorce process so you can make decisions that are in your best interests.