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What is “bird-nesting?”

On Behalf of | Apr 20, 2023 | Divorce |

When a couple decides to end their marriage, the best interests of their children should come first. They are enduring equally challenging and traumatic times. For many kids facing a life-changing event, the stability they once knew is now in question.

The U.S. has one of the highest marital dissolution rates in the world, and there are no signs of it slowing. A 2021 report revealed that filings grew 21 percent from the pandemic’s first year to the second. The most significant percentage were couples with children under 18.

A focus on the children

For those who have embraced the process, cooperation and creativity are crucial and can be achieved. Parents should focus on the children’s best interests by having them remain in the family home instead of moving, which can be equally traumatic. Parents also stay at the house to maintain consistency.

Trial and error are standard during the adjustment period. In many scenarios, nesting resulted in improved relationships between exes. Being able to agree on the new dynamic and frequent interaction helps to improve communication. Ironically, the relationship in divorce is better than the relationship while married.

Even the most contentious relationships between ex-spouses could still benefit from nesting. Laying down and adhering to strict rules and guidelines that limit interactions. Again, the children’s best interest comes first, and consistency can help them process the significant changes in their lives.

Divorce can take two paths. Exes fighting or working together. Taking the path of least resistance and being open to new ideas that help not harm relationships in a new and challenging dynamic.